Remembering Names, Part 2

13 07 2009

In an earlier post, I mentioned a unique method for learning names.   However, no matter how good we are, we are all  human – sometimes we will forget.  In fact, although with our self-deprecating attitudes we tend to think otherwise, the truth is that 95% of the population is bad with names (and 85% of statistics are made up on the spot – but that’s besides the point).  So the question isn’t so much whether we forget, but how we handle forgetting.  Imagine two scenarios:

Scenario 1. You forget someone’s name.  You are too embarrassed to ask them.  You continue to be awkward around them for weeks thinking that someone will drop their name eventually and you won’t have to ask.  You can’t establish an open relationship.  Eventually, someone does drop their name.  But by now it is too late – their opinion of you is already formed – you are the shy awkward person who seems to always hold back.

Scenario 2: You forget someone’s name.  You are embarrassed, but you ask them to remind you anyways (this may even happen more than once).  They tell you, and you laugh and joke about the whole situation.  You establish a normal relationship.  They forget that you forgot their name because  of other good experiences that come along.  Their opinion of you is formed – you are an awesome person who is fun to be around and knows when to not take life too seriously.

Same situation, two different approaches, two different outcomes.  Which do you prefer?  Don’t be afraid to ask.





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